Friday, September 16, 2016
"Wherever You Go, There You Are"
Why did my friend suddenly unfriend me? Why does my neighbor continue to bait the lag monster, when I already asked them politely to limit their script usage? Why are there so many griefers in the summer? Why am I being betrayed, what did I do to deserve this? What in heaven's name is going on in the Second Life universe?! ...These might be some of the questions I'm sure we have all posed to ourselves at one point or another, in our journeys through the virtual realm of SL. In the place where one can be anything and do anything they want, what is with all this star-crossed perfection? People are brilliantly fascinating, and sometimes vicious creatures. Ego, cliques, greed, drama, investments at stake... How does one maintain their cool in their escape from real life, when their sanctuary suddenly turns on them?
These might be hard to put into practice at first, but you need to be patient with yourself. About the hardest thing for me to accept is that no matter how I try to prevent it, conflict is always inevitable. It is just the nature of humanity (no matter how much I proclaim myself an Unseelie Succubus Fae. But now that I have some tools for dealing with it, it's not so bad, and I am glad I can share them with you. I do find distractions to be very helpful in the matters of separating myself from intense situations, my mind seems to contemplate easier on resolutions while multitasking by a playing a game in SL, building, or writing. One thing I may have a problem with is trying not to lose my self control. I find it very hard not to be heard, sometimes the emotions can become very overwhelming for me and they just need to jump right out from inside of me and be acknowledged. However, because I realize this flaw in myself, I can always take time to ask for guidance from a few trusted friends. I've also always been a fan of using Dr. Phil's "I" language when explaining my side of things, that seems to help people understand that I own up to my feelings and self growth.
I wish you peace in your endeavors, even if it is just self actualization with this whole concept - Let there be peace on Earth, and if that is not possible, at least let there be peace within yourself.
I would like to thank Bugs Larnia who teaches a Merry Meeter class at Faerie Crossing called "Conflict Resolution" which is open to the public and worth going to ...maybe even a few times! A lot of this article was based on that wonderful class, and was too awesome to try and cram all into this piece.