Memorial Service For Indea Vaher

 
By Gemma Cleanslate

JardenAlexis called to say there would be a memorial for her Second Life sister. Though I did not know her sister I decided to attend the memorial out of respect for the Phenomenal family of which she was a member and I am so glad I did.

Indea Vaher is a well known artist both in Second Life and in real life. Her roots are in South Carolina and Georgia. She had a Gullah ancestry. To be honest I am pretty sure I visited one of the installations she created to help people in Second Life learn Black History. I have a memory of the Gullah village I visited some years ago.

The chapel at the Premier Business Center which belongs to JardenAlexis is very lovely. There were 76 people who attended the service. ⓂⓈ ⓂⒾⓃⓍⓎ (Juanita Petrovic) greeted with “Welcome to PBC House of Prayer Memorial Service for Indea Vaher. WE LOVE AND MISS YOU INDEA!
~GONE FROM SIGHT, FOREVER IN OUR HEARTS~” and handed me a lovely program to follow.

Pastor Kitty Cummings (DulcetKitty Melody) opened the celebration with an invocation followed by scripture readings by Jonquel (Jonquel Jiagu) .The theme for the Memorial service was "Celebrating the Life of a Phenomenal Woman."

Family members did special tributes which included a Libation ceremony requested by her daughter PlumQueen, and a dance performance to the audio of the late Maya Angelou's "Phenomenal Woman" poem which was choreographed and performed by Denyayii along with two other dancers MzzSapphire, and Muñeca (monaka.harris)

There were 76 attendees in the chapel for most of the ceremony. JardenAlexis read her sister’s biography and I am going to reprint it here .

“Indea Vaher graced the Second life grid with her presence, her knowledge, wisdom, and her art on July 29, 2008. She departed this life on January 31, 2021 after 13 years of meeting and leaving an everlasting impact upon everyone that she encountered in Real Life and Second Life.

"Indea was one of the most high spirited, fun loving, and caring people on the SL grid. She was always spreading love, kindness, knowledge, and words of wisdom. No matter the subject she had an answer. She was especially passionate about her Gullah culture and the traditions of those who lived in the Lowcountry regions of South Carolina and Georgia, which includes both the coastal plain and the Beaufort Sea Islands on the South Carolina Coast.

"Her Spirit, Her Art, Her Wisdom and so much more will be remembered and forever treasured by everyone who had the honor of merely speaking to her. To know her was to love her and it is an understatement to say that Indea Vaher our 'Phenomenal Woman' will be deeply missed.

"Indea is survived by her beloved SL partner DJ Blackcinder; her SL daughter Plum (plumqueen) and SL God Daughter Iɳԃια Bҽʅʅαιɾҽ (india.umia); her sisters Rhyme Gardner, Jackie Lefko-Hawk, and JardenAlexis; Her brothers Moobeemoo Redenblack, and Iwan Sweetwater; her "Cuzzo" Stew (justew.goodnight); a special nephew Kayden Colman; her very special and dear friend Zephrane Staton (zephrane) and so many other family members and friends who will tremendously miss her PHENOMENALLY.”

She then read a letter tribute by her SL brother. Moobeemoo Redenblack who could not attend.

DJ Blackcinder, her Second Life partner, with his heart breaking spoke of their relationship and closeness and his wonderful memories of her that will last forever. He said that their birthdays were the same day but one year apart and spoke of their private times talking together as the best of all in sl. Her sisters, Rhyme Gardner and Jackie Lefko-ℋąωk (Jackie Lefko), sang lovely songs for her. Each sister and brother all talked of their love and memories of their lost sister.

Other family members and friends , one after the other stood to talk of her help and contribution to helping them with their art in Second Life. One attendee, who happened to be in China at this time, actually came in at that time of night there with loving memory of her. One after another stood at the podium to praise her kindness and genuine proud Black womanhood and artistry both in SL and real-life. Their stories were done in voice and I wish I could print every one here. They were so real and full of love and loss.

Following the ceremony there was a final celebration for Indea at the PBC Botanical Gardens with her favorite music provided by her SL God daughter India Bellaire(india.umia), and a special Tribute performed by Monrocie Pontecorvo dressed as one of Indea's favorite characters from the SLeople's Court. The final event at PBC Botanical Gardens was the sequel to Indea's final request for JardenAlexis to create her a "Magical Midsummer Night's Dream SL Rezz Day party." on July 29, 2021. Indea's memorial service and final celebration was just that! A "magical" event from the beginning of the Ceremony to the final party at the PBC Botanical Gardens. This was a beautiful memorial and ending celebration for everyone.

I was amazed to attend such a beautiful memorial, It was uplifting, beautiful and educational. I did not know her but now I feel a loss that I missed making her acquaintance. I actually LEARNED her at the memorial. I almost feel that I did know her by the words I heard. Thank you Indea.

Thanks to all who arranged the inspiring celebration of her life. There are no words to really express all that I experienced. Here is some of her art.

Gemma Cleanslate