Wednesday, June 6, 2018
"Your Mother Has Cancer"
“Your mother has cancer,” I was told one day. “It's too late. They're moving her to the hospice.” That was what I heard in 2013. That was the year I was living in Langley before I moved somewhere else.
My best friend was still alive back then. We would take a trip to the Langley Hospice so we could visit Mom. I remember wanting to spend as much time as I could with Mom and at the same time, I can feel that I'm starting to lose her.
On August 15, 2013, we visited the hospice. I saw her on bed. She was asleep. I didn't want to wake her up. The nurse told me to talk to Mom. I talked to Mom. I told her that everything will be fine. As I was talking to Mom, I knew it would be the last I'd see of Mom.
We left. According to my best friend, Mom passed away fifteen minutes after we left. I remember arriving at my best friend's place and the phone was ringing. My best friend answered the phone and immediately started crying. I just knew. Mom passed away because of cancer.
The same thing that took my Uncle away earlier when my Grandmother was still alive.
At the same time, I was in shock. Mom was my best friend. Even though we have had really hard times when I was growing up, we were still best friends.
Sometimes after I joined Second Life, I found out about Relay for Life. I wanted to join and offer support. I did join Relay for Life.
I did move on, knowing that Mom is with my Uncle and Grandmother. I know that one day, I would join them. Yes, I do miss them, and yes, I do resent cancer in every possible way, knowing that cancer did strike four times in my family – my Grandfather, my Grandmother, my Uncle, and my Mother got cancer. My grandmother survived cancer (it was skin cancer). I don't know about my Grandfather. All I know is that my Grandfather did not die of cancer. It would be my Uncle and mother who died of cancer. I miss them very much.
One day, I asked Bixyl Shuftan if I can write about my family having cancer and how it affected me, seeing that my family had been hit by cancer. I can honestly tell you that each time, it's the same thing. A hard cold blow, knowing what would happen in the end with my mother. Do I hate cancer for taking my family away from me? Yes, I do, very much hate cancer.
I just know that later on, my best friend got cancer. She would later die of a cardiac arrest. I miss her, too.
Do I think that I might one day get cancer because my family got it? Yes, it scares me. But is it possible? No. My father's family doesn't get cancer. When it comes to my uncle and mother, both their parents got cancer.
Now, I'm a little sad, missing my family. That's the reason why I joined Relay for Life. It's so I can offer support to people who have been affected by cancer in any way.