"What Thanksgiving Means To Me"

 

By Penny Shuftan (Deaflegacy), 

 

So what does Thanksgiving mean to us? Looking online, this is what I read: 

 

Thanksgiving is a national holiday in the U.S. celebrated on the fourth Thursday of November to give thanks for the year's blessings and harvest. It commemorates a 1621 harvest feast shared by English colonists (Pilgrims) and the Wampanoag people, though modern celebrations are largely a secular tradition of gathering with family for a large meal, often featuring turkey. The holiday also marks the beginning of the Christmas shopping season.  

Thanksgiving is on a Thursday because it became a fixed federal holiday on the fourth Thursday of November after being proclaimed as a national day of thanks by Presidents George Washington and Abraham Lincoln. Lincoln set the precedent of celebrating on the last Thursday, and the date was later codified by Congress and President Franklin D. Roosevelt in 1941 to end confusion, especially after he tried to move it earlier for the 1939 Christmas shopping season. 

But what does it mean to people? I would ask three I ran into. The first was Rita Mariner.

 

Penny Shuftan (deaflegacy): What's your favorite part of Thanksgiving?

 

Rita Mariner: Family, I only have my sister left, so nice to see her occassionaly, she brings me my turkey dinner.
 

Penny Shuftan (deaflegacy): I'm happy for both of you, Rita. What's your favorite part of the Thanksgiving dinner?
 

Rita Mariner: The turkey, I like the leftovers, makes great sandwiches.
 

Penny Shuftan (deaflegacy): Alright, is there any meaning behind Thanksgiving for you?

 

Rita Mariner: Nothing official, just a nice time when family got together and had a nice time sharing a meal together. Today I just spend my Thanksgiving, on the internet and hopefully friends on Second Life.
 

Penny Shuftan (deaflegacy): Is Thanksgiving a very special time of the year?
 

Rita Mariner: It was when I had a RL family to share it with. It is still nice when I can share it with my 
friends on Second Life.
 

 Penny Shuftan (deaflegacy): Okay, thank you so much again, Rita (smile).

 

I would also ask the Newser's editor and head reporter, Bixyl Shuftan

 

Penny Shuftan (deaflegacy): What does Thanksgiving mean to you?

 

Bixyl Shuftan: To me, it's reflecting on and being thankful for friends, family, and what you have. It often means a Thanksgiving dinner with family and sometimes friends. Mother and I used to cook with, and have dinner with her next door neighbors.  

 

Last but not least, I would ask my neighbor, Denise Unicorn Toonie.

 

Penny Shuftan (DeafLegacy Resident): Denise, what does Thanksgiving means to you?

 

DeniseUnicorn Toonie: Hmmmm.... Let's see.. On Thanksgiving, you get to visit and meet with your family. And eat some turkey as an added bonus. (smile) At least for the ones that do have a family in good standing... not everyone has that.

And there you have it. Happy Thanksgiving.

 

Penny Shuftan 

 

Editors Note: Penny has been facing some medical difficulties in real life, which interfere with her writing. So this article was late in coming in. 

 

Ask DrFran: Where is the Meaning?

By DrFran Babcock

Dear DrFran: 

I have been in Second Life™ for a few years, and have enjoyed almost every second of it. I am not much of a creative person, but I love to meet people, chat, go to clubs and dance, shop until I drop, and sail on the Linden Lab seas. As you can see, I have a pretty fulfilling and fun-filled time. I have had a few boyfriends, and unlike some of the people who write to you, I wear these relationships loosely, neither grieving nor exalting when they are over. My philosophy is: Live and Let Live, and it has always worked for me. At least, it worked until recently.

I have been finding, ever so slowly but persistently, that I am feeling a sense of emptiness on an almost daily basis. It’s a little bit hard to describe, but I will try. The other day I was with my two best friends—Shanna and Tiffany—in Gizza checking out their new Spring line of clothes. We were laughing and having a great time, as usual, and the clothes were gorgeous. Out of nowhere the thought came to me: “There has to be more to Second Life™ than this.” Following that thought, I felt a deep sadness, which grabbed me, and did not let go. After a time fooling around with my friends, I told them I had to log off to do some errands (a lie), and I shut my computer off, and moped.

Since that time, the feeling comes and goes with greater frequency. I wouldn’t say that I am bored. I do enjoy the things I am doing when I log in. It’s just that I feel as if there should be more. I have started to search for places in Second Life™ that might offer me a glimpse into meaning: I visited a Buddhist Temple, a church, different philosophy islands, and nothing really gave me what I needed. Worst of all is that I am not at all sure what it is I need. I only know that how I use my time in world now is not enough. I feel shallow, and I want to find some depth to my Second Life™.

DrFran, do you have any ideas what could be going on, and what I can do about it? 

Thanks, 

Devoid

Dear Devoid: I am so taken by your honesty and insight. You seem to have arrived at a place that most people never get to visit. The sad truth is that most folks go through their lives (first or second) with their eyes closed to everything that is going on around them. What happens when they “wake up” is that they often begin to question the meaning of what they are doing. Congratulations on waking up, Devoid, because this signals the chance for you to move in a growth direction, and make an in world experience that will be deeper and full of the meaning you seek.

I am glad that you are asking me this question at this time of the year, because it is a time when Second Life™ shines the brightest, because of its altruism. You see, I believe that we get meaning from life when we unselfishly give and do for others. The annual Relay for Life season is in full swing. Every year, residents of Second Life™ form teams to raise money for the American Cancer Society. One Linden is not worth much money, it’s true, but together the Second Life™ Relay for Life team raised US$375,385 to fight cancer!!! Anyone and everyone is invited to participate, and there are still many teams that are looking for or need membership. There is a link at the end that can help you see the teams that might need help.

If fighting against cancer is not your thing, there are plenty of other charities in which residents can participate.  Just about every charity that exists in First Life has a twin in the virtual world. I recommend highly finding a way to move from self-contemplation, and into thinking about others. You, and your girlfriends could even find your own charity to sponsor. Maybe this effort will bring some more meaning into your life. Cheers, DrFran

Relay for Life in Second Life™: http://rflofsl.intuitwebsites.com

Obligatory disclaimer: The column Ask DrFran is the work of DrFran Babcock, and may not reflect the views of SL Newser as a whole. Please direct any correspondence to DrFran Babcock. I look forward to hearing from you.

DrFran Babcock